It might be that you’re wrestling with the idea of following a third arrow—which is what you want to do, even if your gut and your brain are assuring you it’s a horrible idea. If this turns out to be the case, that doesn’t mean they’re wrong and you shouldn’t follow them.If this is the case, resist the urge to ignore what your intuition and your brain are telling you. But it might mean you should take them with a grain of salt. Is your fear based on actual danger, or is it fueled by old baggage you’ve yet to unpack and unload? Our intuition is talking to us, but there’s no immediate danger or need for a quick decision, so we give things time to see if future events confirm or recalibrate our instincts.One’s emotions can be helpful in pointing the way toward love—or as unreliable as a broken compass whose needle points in only one direction. Sometimes we can’t pinpoint the reason, but we just have a nagging sense about something or someone.
Our love is often based upon our romantic intuitions, which have developed before we meet someone. Romantic intuition is not a mysterious sixth sense.
It is based on previously-formed evaluative structures, schemata that have been set during evolution and our own personal development.
Thus, someone may tend to love wise, caring men with an ironic sense of humor and preferably a British accent.
Meeting an individual who matches (to a great extent) this pattern activates our inbuilt schemata and enables us to benefit from this implicit knowledge.
The initial fit to our preferences does not guarantee the growth of profound love, which depends on developing joint activities that promote the lovers' flourishing.
It also does not guarantee the long-term duration of this love; with better knowledge of the person, gaps between our ideal image and the individual's reality might become apparent, or the schemata may change as we grow older.Or did you ignore your intuition and wish you had listened instead?The past won’t necessarily tell you exactly what you should do this time around, but it will indicate if your intuition is typically reliable.Pay close attention when your intuition and people you trust are speaking in unison. Still, most of us know the stubborn truth down deep, though we may be unwilling to admit it to ourselves or anyone else. Flip through the pages of your memory and consider the times your intuition has kicked in.Ask yourself honestly if you’re fighting your intuition, even if somewhere inside you know it’s spot on. Did you follow your feelings too quickly and later regret your haste?However, the initial fit is a considerable boost to the establishment of long-term profound love.