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So if you don’t do it for yourself, do it for your kids!
’ The majority of couples will struggle with their sexual relationship at some time.
One single mum told us: ‘I haven’t met anyone yet but the issue is that my child’s bedroom backs on to mine and my walls are thin and not very sound-proof.
She’s often awake and I feel she is listening, so after midnight is my only time for intimacy.’ Another mum of two children under 4, who split up with their father shortly after her youngest was born, said: ‘I miss having sex because I long to feel close to someone.
Many seem to a large extent to have given up on their sex life: just under 45% told us they have sex less than once a week, and just over 23% confessed they hadn’t had sex at all in the preceding month.
When we talked to parents of teenagers about their sex life after children, we found a similar story.
‘Being honest with each other eases resentment which will, in turn, improve your sex life,’ she says.
‘Think about sex in a different way: it doesn’t have to be penetrative sex. It’s never too much effort to have a cuddle.’ Suzie advises parents of children of all ages to make it a habit to plan regular times when they can be alone together.
Asking family and friends to help with the children to give you even a few hours alone together each week should be a priority. Even if not having sex has become an excuse, or a situation you feel you can’t change.
If there are resentments between you, it may be that you may need help from a person outside the family to think about ways of resolving them.
One mother of two children aged 4 and 1 confessed: ‘My husband is always pestering me for sex.