But after connecting with thousands of women via my Facebook page and hearing their tales of missed dates, mixed messages, and misunderstood expectations, the horror stories seem to outnumber any purported success rate by a very wide margin. Don't we all hear how great the apps and sites are? You answer a few questions and then get to meet someone who is (supposedly) a great match.
The dating site's algorithm auto-magically pairs you up with like-minded people who have similar interests, hobbies, life goals... And with mobile apps like Tinder, it’s all based on proximity and the “first sight”phenomenon.
And it's not even them; it's a digital impersonation, and a poor one, at that.
Primal dating rituals and natural courtship don't include posting a profile and a few pictures, or swiping right to indicate interest. Old pictures, employment status, income, weight, age — over 80 percent of online daters don't tell the truth.
In essence, you're starting a relationship based on dishonesty.2. You aren’t actually meeting the person, you're meeting their portrayal and estimation of the best parts of their personality.
And while the questions these surveys do ask are usually centered on individual wants, needs, behaviors, and characteristics, they only address a very small part of what makes human beings compatible.
These compatibility tests don’t take into account upbringing, childhood environment and/or teenage influences, nor do they address changing attitudes and needs. There’s no qualification other than sending a witty, snarky remark that will get their attention; the proverbial wet dream for any pick-up artist.
But with the advent of technology, "dating" doesn't exist anymore.
In today’s technology-centric world — where everyone’s phone seems surgically attached to their hand — dating websites and apps are how modern singles find other singles.
But these are questions/considerations that need to be taken into account.
If online dating sites claim to help find lasting love — a "match" — questions like these are a crucial part of evaluating long-term companionship.
Of course, there are online dating success stories.