Most of the men (five out of six) started discussing which women in the sales department they’d like to sleep with, joking about planting webcams in the women’s bathroom, responding to advice I suggested about a software problem with “Oh, but you’re a woman, so you don’t know anything about computers, am I right?” (It is a software I use daily and most of them use once or twice every two weeks.) It was a very unpleasant lunch, and I came away with the perception this was par for the course for my co-workers, as they didn’t indicate their conversation was in any way unusual.
At the very least you can educate other women that these kinds of comments are not acceptable, which in and of itself might change things.
– Whether it’s a company-wide or area-wide network, you’ll be better tapped in to new job opportunities (one hopes) than your male colleagues.
While it may look rosy from where he’s standing, keep in mind that while you have the ability to grow and become a better person, your Narcissist does not.
So before you start plotting out a method of revenge there are a few things you should consider.
If other people have had similar experiences (and I’m sure they have) then your email will be welcome. Ultimately, I think you’re on the right track by getting out of the company — this misogyny is absolutely something that should be mentioned at your exit interview, and I might even go so far as to write a letter to them so that any woman in the future (who might, say, bring suit) has evidence that the higher ups knew of the problem.
I’ve received a lot of queries lately from people asking how they can get revenge against their Narcissist that left them.
He has learned to adapt by mimicking the emotions of others whenever necessary.
The dominant feelings found in a Narcissist are as follows: Anger: This is generally the default setting on the Narcissists emotional scale. The ifs and whens are not consistent, so you never know when it’s coming, or the level he will take it to.
When people are angry and hurting and they realize that they’ve been duped, lied to and manipulated, it’s normal to want the person responsible to feel what you’re feeling.
One of the most difficult things to cope with is watching the one that hurt you, trot off unscathed, while you are left writhing in agony.
(I’m assuming one doesn’t already exist; if one does, join it!