I personally feel there is no point to being friends with an ex. If a guy dumps you and wants to be friends he is most likely keeping you around because he still wants to have sex with you.
Guys will always keep the door open for that unless you did something like murder his cat.
Having sex with him isn't going to make him want you back, guys are surprisingly good at just having sex even if it's with someone they once cared about.
You don’t want to be talking to him when you are an irrational mess.
Apparently, 30 days is also how long it will take for him to start missing you.
During this time you are not allowed to see him, text him, email him, or even like his Facebook status (I don’t care if it says he rescued ten puppies from Africa). Even if it’s his birthday, or your birthday, or his grandma’s birthday. This person quickly went from being the center of your universe to not being in your universe at all and that is a huge and awful adjustment. But I will say NC isn't just something I preach, it is something I actually practice (in fact, today marks 30 days of NC for me and the guy who broke my heart on NYE!
The only exceptions to this are if you work together or share a child in which case all you can do is limit your contact to the absolute minimum and keep it strictly business. This guy was your best friend, you told him everything and the thought of not talking him makes you actually want to die. Not like I'm counting or anything.) It is the best thing you can do for yourself and during this gut-wrenching time you need to do things for yourself.
He’s not going to say “that text was so witty, I see the light!
” or “she’s calling me every day after I broke up with her, what was I thinking?
Additionally, if your relationship ended horribly, he will need a little time to start focusing on the good things and forget the bad things.
Whether you are implementing NC because you want him back or because you truly want to get over him, you need a solid month before either of those things are possible (unless he quickly realizes on his own that he made the biggest mistake of his life).
And YOU want to be the girl who loves herself enough to not want to talk to the person who broke your heart. I know you are going to want to stay in bed, watch Someone Like You and eat oreos (well, that is my breakup ritual).