He’s actually more Westernized than many ‘city’ Arabs I know.
Men are actually responsible for a woman — very different than being superior.
Not only are they responsible for us financially, but also our emotional well-being.
Family members were actively seeking out prospective wives to include cousins. They have very close family ties and rarely marry outside of their tribe. And someone he could see himself investing a lifetime in. Certainly I’m not someone his mother would have chosen for him, but she’s never made me feel that way. Perhaps they were just relieved he was finally getting married?
My husband made clear he wasn’t interested in an arranged marriage, but instead wanted to marry someone he chose. 🙂 Either way, this spoiled, only child now has a huge family who I love and cherish.
He can comfortably spend his Winter in a desert tent, cooking fresh meat over fahem, and brushing his teeth with a miswak. While I’m watching the Arab Ramadan shows, he’s fully invested in an episode of Daily Show or Colbert.
There’s very little about him that fits into the stereotypical ‘bedoin’ mold.
If he knew something bothered me or caused me pain, he wouldn’t do it, that simple.
In the bedoin culture men are often viewed as superior to women (by outsiders), but it’s not that way.
In his culture men have an obligation to truly take care of their wives.