ineffective – what’s the best way for Katie to achieve her dream of marriage and kids with a man she loves?So here’s the reason I think you might want to stay and make things work: You meet a pushy car salesman who wants to give you a great deal and won’t let you off the lot until you buy…and you’re not gonna buy from him.
The more you pressure him to know that he wants to spend every day of the rest of his life with you and give you half of his income if he’s wrong, the less he’s going to want to do it.
So your arbitrary timelines: six months, nine months, one year, a year and a half… They’re arbitrary ticking clocks that you’ve created to justify your insecurity about investing time in one man.
It would be easy for me to tell you to run from him.
I’m sure some of the other readers will say just that.
See, ever since we started dating – even before we started dating and knew each other through friends – I knew this guy didn’t believe in marriage.
I know you’re going to say: “Why didn’t you pay attention to the negatives?
Now I realize how much I do want to get married to the person I love. He believes in long-term commitment and family, but not marriage (his family history is pretty rocky).
I said to him that I don’t want to wait, and if I weren’t engaged after a couple years together I would think of moving on.
” I can honestly say I didn’t realize at that point that it mattered to me.
I’m fairly young (late 20s) and it is just beginning to dawn on me that I’d like to get married.
However, unless your boyfriend is a liar, such behavior would be entirely illogical and inexplicable.