So you hang in there with anxiety and hope while another month goes by.Finally he tells you that he doesn’t see a marriage potential here.
While there’s no magic bullet to prevent heartbreak, there is a good chance that if the relationship ended sooner you would not have fallen so hard.
In the future, from the first date, let the guy know what you want and need: exclusivity. Even if you’ve missed your opportunity to set your boundaries on the first date, do it now.
Ever been at a party or a function where someone is talking to you, but at the same time scanning the room looking for someone else to talk to? I can also date multiple people and still make the right choice. Dating multiple people has significantly disabled bachelors and bachelorettes from focusing on the people sitting right in front of them.
Studies show that too many options actually make it harder to choose.
Perhaps, in the end you didn’t either, so no harm, right? If you had dated exclusively, both of you would have come to this place sooner and not wasted precious time.
Worse, if in fact you did fall for him, then you’re left heartbroken and empty.
Insisting that a man date you exclusively while he’s dating you sends him the signal that you are special, that you deserve love and care and respect. In my many years of matchmaking I’ve found that the one thing that’s gotten even the most confirmed bachelors off the fence and into marriage are women with inner self-confidence – no matter how quiet or soft they are – that insist on being treated the way they would treat their partner – with exclusive attention. Ziva Kramer, MA has been an international matchmaker, dating coach and spiritual advisor for professional singles for many years.
Known for her honesty, candor, and for passing out wisdom that people trust.
With a noticeably large number of millennials not wanting to fully commit themselves to someone, we see this trend happening more often than not today.