'I also have a car, I also have a house, and [money] in the bank. 'I say women in the old days were better.’ 'We were just having fun,’ claims Yu, 24, when asked why she made the video. We want them to know that we have standards now, too.’ This is something that Gong Haiyan, the female founder of the country’s biggest dating website, knows only too well.
But I know they’re just worried,’ she says, hinting at the other big issue at play.
'Because I’m an only child it’s harder, as they are relying a lot on me.’ Women born under China’s one-child policy, introduced in 1979, face enormous pressures to succeed academically from parents whose own aspirations were thwarted under the Mao regime.
I’ve met women who actually quit their jobs because they thought they’d find it easier to attract a husband, which is very frightening. There are many countries where men don’t like strong women,’ she points out, 'but Chinese men particularly so.
Those who didn’t give up work entirely were turning down promotions.’ The author and social commentator Zhang Lijia knows exactly what she thinks about the term . If a Chinese man is successful he will be looking for a woman who is young and beautiful, not someone who is well educated.’ She pauses before laughing heartily.
If you don’t manage it within that small window of time they worry and fuss.
It’s ridiculous.’ 'There’s no question that a lot of women rush into marriage with the wrong person,’ says Leta Hong Fincher, a doctoral candidate in sociology at Tsinghua University in Beijing.China’s 'leftover women’ are considered on the shelf if they're still single at 28 In case you hadn’t noticed, Chinese women have become quite a force to be reckoned with in recent years.According to Forbes magazine, 11 of the 20 richest self-made women in the world are Chinese, and now 19 per cent of Chinese women in management positions are CEOs, the second highest percentage worldwide (after Thailand’s 30 per cent).'Chinese men think educated women aren’t as easy to control! Internet chatter about came to a head last March when a young woman called Long Si Yu and 15 of her friends posted an online music video admonishing men for not having their own house or car.There are currently 118 men to every 100 women in China – that’s an excess of more than 30 million.I told her that I wasn’t going to rush into marrying just anyone, that my happiness doesn’t only come from my relationships but from my work.