Q: When evaluating the health of a guy's relationship with his mom, what do you recommend a woman look for? Mandel: A guy with a healthy relationship with his mother can say "no" to her, make choices and decisions on his own, have an intimate relationship with a woman without fearing his mom will be jealous or intrude in his relationship, and likes it when mom is busy and enjoying her own life with or without a spouse.If he still takes his laundry over to mom to have her do it, or has her cook weekly meals for him (and he doesn't have the flu), run! ” is a sweet way to say “You dumbass, you left all your shit smashed under the bar.” (Which is what you are allowed to be .) 21. It’s insight into her mind, plus will give you more to discuss. What’s the first thing she does when she gets home from work?
Leave a note on the fridge that’s cute and nice, even if it just says “hi!
Bring her dinner if she has to work late, even if it’s just pb&j.
I am 34, you know...", for example), their talking everyday may not be something worth your concern.
On the other hand, while mom and son may not see or talk to one another very often, if he can't make a decision in his life without her approval or validation, that's a sign of a seriously unhealthy attachment.
Q: What if mama is the one who's not yet ready to cut the cord?
Granted, he's not grabbing any scissors, but what if she's the driving force? Mandel: When this is the case, it's better for you to gently coax him to start setting some boundaries with mom.
She'd probably end up creating a wedge in your relationship and then he'd likely feel forced to choose between the two of you.
And because you're the new girl in town...well, I don't think I have to tell you whom he'd choose!
If you've been together for a while and you're serious about one another, however, if she's intrusive or disrespectful of you or your relationship, it might be time to invite her to lunch for a little chat.