Without trusting that maybe you won’t be betrayed, you are deeply afraid of exposing yourself to the possibility of being hurt. Resilient Despite circumstances that could contribute to low self-esteem, some women are just built to be resilient.
– you gravitate toward relationships in which you’re able to feel this familiar insecurity. If the relationship becomes too secure, you may become disinterested and bored and you may stray.
You’re so used to having to work to save an insecure relationship that these types of relationships become the only ones you gravitate toward.
Instead, because you don’t see yourself as naturally lovable, you feel like you have to fight and claw and strive for a mate.
It’s as if unless you go nine million extra miles for something, you’re not going to get it.
The following are 10 of the many ways that low self-esteem can manifest in your romantic relationship.
(Note that adult manifestations of earlier emotional, physical or sexual abuse are way too complex to be characterized in this post.
You may even be willing to put up with behavior that doesn't satisfy you, because you feel lucky to have anyone at all, even though you are aware you are not happy. Scared of Intimacy Were intimacy and connection in your repertoire growing up?
If not, these experiences may feel uncomfortable now.
Unfortunately, this can make you obsessed, consumed and infatuated with your object of affection in a way that ruins the ability to have a viable trajectory. When the relationship doesn’t develop easily or on your timeline, it's hard to tolerate. Just know that it is hard for the boy to sustain that level of intensity right along with you, and it may be a more intense experience than he is ready for. Seeking Financial Safety Are you willing to surrender your hopes for an authentic connection with a partner to guarantee wealth and "financial safety"?
This category manifests as the need to trap a mate with looks or sex or your other physical resources while hiding what you see as a shameful inner part of yourself.
This also allows the emotional safety of control: you’re in control of your ability to please a man without having to give away your heart.