Consider me your friend who had to work late, has thus shown up at the bar sober, and who is trying to talk you out of going home with Dracula — as mysterious and handsome as he is.
Dating making out
It's not because I'm a germaphobe as much as I'm a saliva-phobe. I literally can't stand the feeling of someone's spit on my lips, let alone——inside my mouth. When I first started dating, I didn't know it was OK to dislike French kissing, so I put up with it.
I participated in games of Spin the Bottle, made out with guys at college parties, and pushed through the kissing portion of foreplay so I could get to the sex, which I actually did like.
Not only was I a ghostee many times, I was I also a ghoster, until I learned my lesson. She asked when we could see each other again, but we put it off. The cruel paradox of talking up a storm is that you leave the date being sure it went great.
Your date, on the other hand, is thinking I’ve heard in some circles that dates are dead, and that it’s all about last-minute hook-ups. For those who have the empathy of a Hyena, let me explain why this is important: When you make plans with a person, what happens is they then turn down other plans.
In the United States, these events were referred to as "make-out parties" and would sometimes be confined to a specific area, called the "make-out room".
Confession: I'm one of those annoying people who won't share drinks with friends. But that particular phobia doesn't end with me not letting someone take a swig from my Poland Spring bottle—it also means I hate making out.
As an insecure 21-year-old, I took his critique to mean my kissing style was objectively bad and then resolved to "fix" it. Obviously, I had to go home with him…and then make him my boyfriend.
I sought instruction from a friend, who taught me to move my tongue around, stomach the saliva it was inevitably picking up, and brush off my uneasiness about—ugh—ingesting it. You can't just let a kisser that restrained get away.
Making out is usually considered an expression of affection or sexual attraction.