Being previously married and divorced does not necessarily demonstrate a track record of commitment and responsibility.
It simply means they’ve been married and divorced, which could mean all sorts of things!
Forcing You to Go Incognito It makes sense that a man who is newly divorced may be hesitant to bring a new love interest around his children if he is a divorced dad.
As his children are coping with the loss of their family unit as they know it, introducing a new woman into his family too soon may really worry and confuse them, further adding to their sense of instability. (It can happen in a divorce, especially when a couple shares mutual friends.) But if you want a normal relationship; if you want your relationship to grow and evolve, but your partner insists on “sneaking around” or hiding you from his friends and family, then that’s not normal.
With that said, there such things as healthy and unhealthy relationship dynamics.
If you notice any one of the following issues in the man you’re dating, take it as a warning that he may be lacking in important qualities that help make a relationship successful.
Maybe he always wanted to work late or on the weekends. Her betraying him probably really hurt her husband, and certainly didn’t help her marriage.
Maybe by the time he came home from work he was tired and wasn’t interested in sex. But is he blameless for the breakdown of their relationship? Relationships don’t happen “to you”; relationships are co-creative.
People commit to each other and get married for all sorts of reasons.
I once met a guy, in an airport, who was in his fifties, and had already married and divorced six times!
I believe that every relationship is different, which is why it upsets me when I see articles that make blanket statements about men (or women) and what you “should” do in your relationship.