issues, especially issues around dating white people (mental/health effects of internalized racism, institutionalized racism, the types of micro-aggressions I may be likely to commit.) When I date people with less money, I pay for shit.
When I date people who are messy, I organize their shit (even though I’m also really messy.) When I date people with physical limitations, I massage their shit (weird Emma past: I went to massage school.)But, especially with men, this energy feels so unidirectional.
Supposedly, throughout human history, 40% of men have reproduced while 80% of women have.
Having said that, be wary of a man who is always offering up the kids as an excuse not to spend time with you.
A guy who is serious about having a relationship will find the time to fulfill his role as a father and be an enthusiastic lover as well.
I saw her irritability as evidence that she was a narcissistic psycho. You wouldn’t want to go out with a man who put you before the needs of his kids.
Give him the space to be a caring dad and he will love you for it.
This would also involve taking his last name, doing most of the housework while contributing 50% to the earnings, and faking my orgasms so he doesn’t have to feel emasculated by his lack of sexual prowess. It would involve some sacrifices, like probably not living in San Francisco.
However, every time I go on a date with some man-child, I become more and more convinced that those sacrifices are probably the less bad option. So many men act like a girlfriend is just something they deserve, but have no concept of how they might improve the life of the women they’re with. When I date people, I devote a lot of effort to making their lives better.
Apparently, more men want kids than women do nowadays.
Laurie Penny: ‘Women shouldn’t apologise for the pitter-patter of tiny carbon footprints’I’ll go on dates with guys, who are like “Yeah, I’d like my wife to take my last name, cook for me, and iron my underpants, but I’d never date someone who just wanted to be a stay at home wife.
The same rules apply in reverse if you are a man keen on a woman who has children.
It’s no big deal, but failure to tread softly can kill off a potentially brilliant romance. This is a concept that is sometimes hard for people who aren’t parents to understand.
I couldn’t find any statistics for the US, but in Norway about 25% of men never have kids while percentage of childless women is much lower.