During the peak of my cyber world addiction I was about 40 years old, and was telling everyone on-line that I was actually 32. I even met up with some of these women, which is never a good idea.When your fantasy world and your real world collide it’s very awkward.Not only do you look nothing like your photo, but you are nothing like the person you paraded yourself as.
I nearly lost my house and my mind because of this addiction and was bordering on being mentally ill.
My advice to anyone who’s logging on is to keep one foot in the real world.’ Computer Love While on-line dating services are proving to be popular with singletons (a survey by Dreams of 5,000 people found that 37% had met a long term partner through a dating site), more people are indulging in cyber romances.
Misogynistic harassment is a serious issue for online dating services.
Violent threats, hostile outbursts and being blackmailed into sending explicit images, are just some examples of the potential fall-out a woman might face – even for just ignoring or rebuffing a would-be suitor.
His admirers lived millions of miles away from him, the rampant sex sessions were typed out on his keyboard, and his bride – well, he can’t even remember her name. ‘I lived in world that was ruled by the Internet and where a computer took over my life.
Even my sleeping patterns depended on who was logging on in time zones around the world.
When it comes to the internet, it seems common sense to think that the physical distance and anonymity the online world provides allows, even encourages, people to do things they wouldn’t normally do “in real life”.
If you don’t believe your actions hold any consequences for you, then there is no fear of the social ramifications which might normally keep certain behaviours in check.
John Suler called this the “online disinhibition effect”.