It's a simple concept, but the consequences are deeply meaningful.
Embracing this concept encourages listening to others instead of talking over them, and listening encourages empathy and compassion.
I've been living with my girlfriend for just over a year now.
She's a 2nd generation immigrant, both parents having come to the States from Kenya not long before she was born.
I'd really hate to give the impression that her race is some sort of curiosity, fascination, or fetish of mine.
I don't feel that her race plays much significance in our romance or cohabitation, so the bulk of the dating experience is much the same as dating any other person I find attractive and whose company I enjoy (or you know...
It turns out I’m not the only Asian-American male to have troubles with the ladies (and gents and other folks).
A 2014 study by Ok Cupid explored how race affects desirability by polling both heterosexual men and women on their racial preferences.
Minorities tend to find their own and the white dominant race attractive, yet black women and Asian men continuously receive the short end of the stick.
I have experienced this myself when trying out Tinder and meeting people in-person.
That understanding is a pale shadow compared to the internalized, inescapable understanding that can only be earned by living that reality, however.
Without having my girlfriend in my life, I don't think I would ever have appreciated just how far apart those two levels of understanding are.
I do not intend to call any individual preference racist, but it’s a reflection of our society.