If neither spouse will convert, the engaged interfaith couple must travel abroad to wed--ironically, Israel gives legal recognition to intermarriages taking place abroad.Shipler's research indicated that in the 1980s these courageous couples were primarily Jewish women married to Arab men.Many of the people involved in these relationships feel like their rights are violated by the state.
He quotes one otherwise quite liberal Israeli Jewish woman, who is married to another Jew, referring to intermarriage as "a silent, nonviolent genocide.
It saddens me as a Jew." Among other instances of discrimination, La Guardia notes that "there have been cases of Russian immigrants dying as Jews in terrorist attacks, only to be refused burial in a Jewish cemetery because of suspicions that they might be goyim [non-Jews]." The adult children of intermarriage don't have easy lives either.
Amer grew up in a family setting which had little education but had neighbours who were Jewish.
His parents were unfazed when he brought home his Jewish partner.
This is a story of one of the Jewish women when she fell in love with an Arab man.
Varda who is 18, arrived from Holland teeming with Zionist favour; she moved to Jerusalem and became a citizen and found work as a therapist for boys with behavioral problems.The interfaith Jewish-Arab couples Shipler interviewed in the mid-1980s were generally quite happy, living normal, prosperous lives, but they would not allow him to use their real names in his book.In some cases they had been abandoned by one or both sets of in-laws; lost friends; been subjected to physical violence; received verbal abuse and threats; experienced career problems; and they sometimes kept their affairs and intermarriages secret from family, friends, and coworkers for long periods of time.Over the years, the couple has had to overcome hurdles thrown at them by the Israeli state and their respective communities.Amer is an Arab Israeli, a Palestinian born in Israel and holds the Zionist state citizenship. Multiply the problems by a factor of one hundred, occurring on a daily basis.