Once upon a day I used to be pretty smart, and believe me, I had a lock on clueless. -- and then continue doing even more of what you were doing before.
Dating is at best another extracurricular, number six or number seven down the list, somewhere between Model UN and intramural badminton.
I know people in their 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond who still haven't figured out how to create an intimate connection with another human being. Smart people feel that they're entitled to love because of their achievements.
It's because they've been going at it the wrong way. For most of their lives, smart people inhabit a seemingly-meritocratic universe: If they work hard, they get good results (or, in the case of really smart folks, even if they don't work hard, they still get good results).
At some point in your life, you got pegged as a smart person.
From then on, that was your principal identity: The Smart One.
Those kids graduate and pretty much continue to have the same dating woes -- only now with fewer single people around who happen to live in the same building and share meals with them every day.
So if they had challenges then, it gets about 1,000 times worse once they're tossed from the warm womb of their alma mater. For simple things, it takes someone smart to really screw it up. Take piano, violin, tennis, swimming and Tibetan throat-singing lessons. Be "well-rounded." Well, you're a talented little bugger. At the same time, there's an opportunity cost associated with achievement.And it certainly won't bring you lasting love and fulfillment.Here's the thing: Your romantic success has nothing to do with your mental jewelry and everything to do with how you make the other person feel.He later expanded his knowledge and experience into the area of social dynamics and relationship psychology.He stresses the importance of re-assessing people's REAL wants, needs, and beliefs, along with making conscious choices and heart-centered decisions.Right from the start Alex May felt an intuitive disbelief towards socially-induced relationship paradigm he was born into and raised to believe in.